Have you ever tried to give up smoking, lose weight, exercise, or get up earlier when things seem to go well for awhile, and then
You start messing up and soon you are back where you started.
Do you give up and give in to your doubts?
I can’t change, it’s too hard, I’m too old. I’m under too much stress,
I can’t deal with another failure. I’m too far gone.
Don’t listen to the doubts. Stop making excuses. The only right thing to do when you fail at something is again.
In medicine, especially treating addictions, I have seen unbelievable transformations.
Without a doubt I believe change is possible, and there is absolutely hope for you.
You can be successful. You can quit smoking, lose weight, stop doing drugs, or whatever it is you want.
You can, even if you’ve failed multiple times before.
If you want to change something in your life, start small. Just change one thing.
Right now, write it down.
Then do what you need to do to get where you want to be.
For example, drink water instead of a soda. Brush your teeth when you want to smoke. Install a filter on your computer. Recite Shakespeare when you feel angry. Take a cold shower. Run around the block. Count to ten. Count to 500. Eat on a smaller plate. Do jumping jacks. Make exercise an appointment on your calendar. Write fifteen minutes a day. Surround yourself with positive influences. Change little things in your environment. Stop and think. Redirect.
Read, research, hire a coach, or a counselor, ask a friend to come along side.
One thing you can’t do is just hope for the best. You can’t “name it claim it blab it grab it”.
I’m all for having a vision of who you want to be and changing your thoughts.
Sow a thought, and you reap an act;
Sow an act, and you reap a habit.
But bad habits and faulty thinking are deeply embedded in your brain like a well trodden path. You have got to forge a new trail. There is no try, there is only do.
The secret to successfully breaking a bad habit is replacing the bad with a new, good one, and coaxing it along step by step.
R. Buckminster Fuller said,
You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.
Are you the person you really want to be? If not, do something about it. You can break that bad habit. You can change. Replace bad with good.
Yeah, I know its hard, it takes work, it gets frustrating, it takes forever.
So what do you want? What do YOU want, and what are you going to do about it? You have to start somewhere.
What better time than right now? Let me tell you something,
You can change, it’s not too hard, you’re not too old, stress will always be there, and failure is a part of change.
You can do it, and you will. I know you can.
You got this.
More on change here.
Book suggestion—>The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business