Do you agree with Mark? So do I. Then why would you or I, or anyone else seek out people who belittle their ambitions?
That’s the five hundred and seven thousand dollar question. Maybe because you didn’t realize until now that a certain person was making you feel small. There are many passive-aggressive and other damaged individuals in our lives that pose as our friends.
How do you know if you have a poser verses a genuine friend?
How do you feel after you spend time with this person? Lifted up or crushed down? Posers use you to make themselves feel better. They don’t care about you because they are the center of the universe. Fake friends say things like,
You always. You never. What’s wrong with you? What’s wrong with me?Nothing. Oh, something came up. Of course you can trust me. I won’t tell a soul, cross my heart. Who’s side are you on? I can’t stand her (Oh hi Angela, we were just talking about you! How have you been?!)
I know you didn’t seek out this person who makes you feel small. It just happens sometimes. And you certainly don’t deserve to have your nose rubbed in your mistakes or your flaws constantly pointed out. We are all flawed. We all make mistakes. We are the same. We all have thoughts that would shame the devil. No one gets away with I’m better than you attitude cause it ‘aint true.
You are a nice person, and that’s why you haven’t said sayonara to this freak yet. Life is short even when you don’t think it is. Free yourself of toxicity! If it’s family, free yourself emotionally and learn how to deal with these difficult people.
Now seek out people who build you up, who make you feel important. Genuine friends don’t place conditions on your relationship and they definitely don’t pack a knife for stabbing you in the back. You know the pure of heart because of how you feel when you’re around them. Do you feel loved? Encouraged? Happy? Accepted for who you are? If you do, then that’s evidence you have got yourself a real friend, and a treasure!
As the philosopher Balastar Gracián once said, True friendship multiplies the good in life and divides its evils. Strive to have friends, for life without friends is like life on a desert island… to find one real friend in a lifetime is good fortune; to keep him is a blessing.
As you travel through life may you know the difference between the impostors and the real deal. And in turn find good fortune, and be blessed.