Everyday I ask my self why do I bother with social media? Why am I on Twitter? I’m not a rockstar. Why do I write for LinkedIn? I can’t compete with the influencers. I am an amateur photographer with less than 20 followers on Instagram and have a no frills WordPress blog. I do everything the gurus tell me to do.
- Use hooks
- Blog regularly
- Follow back
- Tweet links, photos, have a Paper.li,
Still, I am so small. Pale blue dot kind of small.
I think social media has been bad for my self-esteem.
Unless you are in the camp of the gurus, big star musicians/artists, famous founders/ entrepreneurs of successful companies, high Klout score tweeps- whatever that means…
Social media might be bad for your self esteem too.
How do I know this? Because I just do. I work in psychiatry. A long time ago I was a teenager in public school. I was the tallest girl in my class. No one asked me to the prom. I’ve raised three kids. I blog. I get self-esteem.
Do you feel alone, faceless, passed over? Have you hurt inside when a troll directed an opprobrious comment at you? Have you felt dejected because your favorite band, artist, author, colleague, influencer never acknowledges, retweets, likes, or follows you?
Maybe it seems like all your followers or connections are eggs, fake celebrities, f-bomb droppers, spammers, or tweeps who don’t speak your language.
I say social media is a self-esteem mutilator and reminds me of high school. A place I tried so hard to fit in, but never could. God, it was brutal. And life in the digitalsphere can be brutal – if you let it.
So don’t let it.
Get your self-esteem boosts by living in the real world, not the digital one. Post with the intent to lift up others, and you’ll find yourself lifted too.
Surround yourself with those you love, who love you. Be in the presence of real people. Get out, enjoy your life. It’s a vapor that is fleeting.
If you find a real friend or connection on social media, consider yourself lucky. I am lucky. I now realize social media is what it is and I’ll use it my way: to share nuggets of truth, inspiration, beautiful, fun things with you. If someone doesn’t like what I share, oh well. I won’t let it crush my spirit.
I won’t pretend to fit in. Because I don’t. And I can honestly say, I’m fine with that.